No-one starts their marriage with the intention of having an affair; our wedding vows, after all, include the promise to “forsake all others and be faithful”. Yet some sort of infidelity occurs in approximately 20% of marriages.¹ Christians are not immune and most of us know, at least to some extent, the terrible impact adultery can have on families, church and ministries. One insight that can help prevent sexual unfaithfulness in marriage is that it rarely happens spontaneously; rather, it is often the result of many small steps. If we can recognise that we’re on the path to adultery, we can apply wisdom and get off before things go any further.
Most Christian husbands I speak to like the idea of reading the Bible with their wife but feel guilty because it hasn’t happened much (or at all) in their marriage. I totally get it. For many years I failed completely in this area. Reading the Bible with my wife was like one of the jobs on my domestic job list that seemed completely beyond me (rehang a cupboard door, put up shelves, replace a tap etc). This wasn’t anything to do with her mind you – I just couldn’t or wouldn’t do anything about it.
Eventually, thanks to some prompting from a friend, we managed to work out how to make it happen. And it’s been a really positive thing. Here’s some ideas that might help you get started. Continue reading “How to Read the Bible with your Wife”
Coming home after work is a danger time for blokes. We’ve had a hard day dealing with stress, conflict and tension. All we want to do is relax. But our home can also be a place of stress, conflict and tension.
Here’s some things to think about and do before you open that door… Continue reading “Before you open that door…”